Warning: My feelings about engagement rings may or may not have led to the unengaged circumstance that i'm in now, so if you really want to get married, maybe stop reading or at least read with a closed mind. Or don't. i don't care.
Anyway. Engagement rings. What have they become? They've become a tool of sorts. A tool, used by women, to set the standard for the future. The standard of "your money is now mine, so you might as well spend it on me". Hence the reason for buying large expensive rings. Barf.
They no longer mean commitment. If they really meant commitment, you should be able to purchase, or steal, or make any sort of object and declare it to stand for commitment, but now most women want a "rock". An effing rock that comes out of the ground. If i were a shallow woman, i'd at least want something that hardly anyone else has, like a moon rock or a poisonous serpent, or something along those lines.
What goes on in a woman's smaller (FACT) brain that she thinks that spending an entire paycheck (isn't that the standard) on a ring that she will probably lose is a good idea? What goes on? I don't know. I don't read minds. I'm pretty sure it's about control.
This is where i climb upon the tower and shout to the masses - "Abandon your foolish ways. The time has come where man should stand up for what is right. Resist the woman that demands such frivolity. Send a message to the ladies that we will no longer buy dumb things like engagement rings, and tall t's, and slim t's, and rolling backpacks, and corn, and snuggies, and we will spend the money on things that are necessary, like food, and shelter, and climbing shoes, and possibly new skis." I imagine that after i've finished shouting to the masses that i get booed off, and maybe stoned (literally have rocks thrown at me. idiot.). Anyway. I don't know. I don't really know the demographic i was yelling at. it was all imaginary anyway.
So after all that, the bottom line i arrive at is this: It seems logical that the money could be put to something else that is actually more beneficial for the relationship, but i guess that's where i went wrong. I used logic, which is apparently absent in the majority of engaged people. ug.
Editor's Note: All this is opinion, but if i really wanted to, i could go into nearfacts about how DeBeers ("a diamond is forever" company) basically created today's engagement system. How convenient that a company that would profit off of people buying expensive rings would lobby for a system where people buy expensive rings. That's commercialism for you.